only spell out doom after a few days or months into the relationship leaving you with a broken heart. These are mostly commitment phobics and no matter how hard you try to change them or change for them it will just not work. Some of the men to avoid include:

1. The man- child

This is a man who is desperately clingy to his childhood days when responsibility was minimal and life was a little bit complicated.  He is the kind of guy who adores keg parties and thinks that pizza is one of the major food groups. He is only good for a date or two but you can be sure that the relationship is going nowhere since he would rather live like a college student than commit and face responsibility.

2. Roving eye guy

This is the guy that will have his eye on all other females other than the one he is with.  He is someone who will not let any lady in a skirt pass by whether it is his buddy’s wife, the waitress, women at the bus stop and so on and so forth. This usually makes his date feel unattractive and inferior.

3. The cheapskate

You do not have to get the label of “golddigger” to know the difference between a man who is downright miserly and one who is prudent. A cheapskate would rather take you to Uhuru Park for a picnic with the cheapest food in the market while he can afford a decent meal at a nice restaurant. He will not want to go out and spend a coin. Although there is nothing wrong with a man being careful about money it might spell out future headaches especially in a situation where you are living together as you might have to foot all the bills whereas he does not spend a cent. This is also an indication that he has control issues.

4. Mr Gadget

This is a guy who spots the latest boy toys and seems to think of nothing else. He has the hottest phone, a luxury car, high speed boat and the latest motorbike for weekend drives. In simple terms, he has numerous gadgets that keep him busy. He therefore has a very hard time paying attention to women as they cannot compete with technology that changes almost every second. He also cares about his stuff more than people.

5. Mamas boy

The mama’s boy still probably lives with his parents where his mum still treats him like a kindergarten kid. This means his food is cooked and laundry done. This is not really a deal breaker especially in some cultures where it is not uncommon. However, when the guy finds pleasure in being waited for hand and foot by her mum there is trouble.  A mama’s boy will expect their girlfriend to wait on them 24/7.  Staying with them makes women realize they are raising a man all over again and it is usually better to leave that job to his mum.

6. The Abuser / Narcissist

He will start out loving and charming but in time begins to break down your confidence, separates you from your friends, and family, and becomes emotionally or physically abusive. He wants their victim to be willing to endure their abuse and to label this willingness “love.”  He is extremely possessive, jealous, and controlling and will go to any lengths to prevent you from ending the relationship. They will blame you for all of this behavior.

7. The Gangsta

He has a hectic life. Thus, he can be emotionally distant, aggressive, abusive, dishonest, and dominating to those around him. Any interaction with him will be at his whim or according to his schedule.  Yet instead of being frustrated by this, you may feel strangely special when he is able to fit you into his busy life.  It is extremely difficult to establish healthy romantic relationships with him.

8. The Alpha Male

He is often intelligent, able to confidently discuss a wide range of issues and may be capable of critical thinking. For these reasons, he is a leader amongst his male friends and is respected by colleagues and family members. He is therefore not used to being challenged or disagreed with. He will always aim to maintain control of every aspect of your relationship, including frequency and length of visits and telephone interactions.  He is mainly motivated by self-interest and is not a team player.

** In all fairness, these guys aren’t all bad and maybe they just need a patient partner to come in and show them the light. Just because he relishes saving money, loves his mama and delights in playing Grand Theft Auto IV until dawn, all that doesn’t make him unworthy of a relationship. Remember, not everyone will come into your life ready-made, but there’s a difference between dusting off a diamond and fighting a battle you’re never going to win. (eHarmony)