falling in love with money, through her beauty, intelligence, and ambition, she gets what she wants. Her parents have made great sacrifices to give her a good, decent life, but Wanjiku wants more…..This is a sneak peak of how Kenyan women are living in their dream world.

Since the introduction of the Mexican soap operas  in the Kenyan viewership, the likes of ‘ Soy tu Duena ’, ‘ Teresa  ’, ‘ Mipecado  ’, ‘ Oliva darte James  ’, Kenyan women  have developed a fetish that Kenyan men  don’t know how to treat women. Apparently the Kenyan men are the most unromantic men alive.

 Based on some scenes in the soaps, Kenyan women are insisting on changing Kenyan men into some Alejandro or Antonio guy from a certain 'soap'.They seem to have suddenly become aware that they ought to be treated well. And this is where they have gotten it wrong- the way they demand to be treated well.

The women have misconstrued the excessive affection in the soaps into reality. They demand to be addressed as ‘my love’ ‘the love of my life’ but I bet if it is going to easy. I believe with the high cost of life, many Kenyan men are thinking about the future and a soap opera is definitely not part of that future.

 I don’t mean to be bitchy but the fact that these things are allegedly ‘happening’ in Mexico does not mean they are happening or should happen every where. This is Kenya  and our men roll their own way.

 I like listening to women who can’t stop whining about their men. Statements like;- Kenyan men are not romantic, don’t know how to treat a woman, never do this or that, dominate the talk. Yet I have never heard a woman complaining when pampered with gifts. It’s not like I would complain though. As a woman and I  also like being treated well .

Communication is very essential in a relationship.And the last time I checked, men were human beings and none of them were psychic.I believe for your man to treat you well, you have to let him know your definition of ‘being treated well’. Is it ending a phone call by saying ‘I love you’,  calling you three times a day, taking you for coffee every evening, opening doors, pulling you a chair, holding your hand in public, buying you expensive gifts? It goes without saying Kenyan love  is all about cash.

 However, I cannot dispute one thing about Kenyan men; their ego comes before anything else. I know some truth though, Kenyan men are not the best lovers especially when in public or when in their friends company.Our men are not generous money wise; they give in one hand and take away with the other-the must sleep over after a clubbing night thing or ‘let me make sure I tuck you into bed’ an excuse to get into your pants.

On the other hand, women are in one way gold diggers and Kenyan women are not an exemption. They have never been known to come easy where money is involved. A typical Kenyan woman believes a man has to spend on her to win her over.

 Ladies;- No offence, the payment is done indirectly.  Isn’t the money you ask for hairdo, manicure, facial, pedicure some sort of payment yet you are earning? If not why do women dump a man especially if he fails to foot the bills.

 When a stingy man and a gold digger hook up one can only expect more drama! and the soap operas  continue.